Vow To Stress Less: Combating Wedding Day Stress…
You hear it all the time, brides and grooms both get stressed leading up to the special day. (Yes, you read correct, even grooms get stressed out too!) Even if you are a very laid back person, having a very laid back wedding. You will too probably have a little wobble. (Not to try make you hate wedding planning) don’t worry it is completely normal to have stress about your wedding. However, don’t forget, along with wedding planning also comes the excitement, joy and of course looking forward to what the future will bring with your most loved one!
We understand that everyone will get jitters and panic, so here at The Wedding Affair our Top Tips Tuesday is all about how you can try and cut down the wedding day stress, and also how to deal with some of the emotions you may be feeling both during planning and on the day. Remember you only get married once so be sure that you take in every moment and, most importantly enjoy it!
Stick To Your Budget!
This is one of the most important things to stick to! It goes without saying, yes we understand that there will always be temptations. However is it really worth the added stress both through your wedding planning and on the day? You will only get worried about how you will pay off that little bit extra you splashed out on your shoes, or the open bar that you decided to have. Remember, making sure you know your budget doesn’t mean that your wedding will be any less luxurious, or beautiful. Just make sure that if you do go over your budget you can afford to do so.
The last thing you will want to be doing it starting married life in debt, and all the added stress that comes with debt! Have the most perfect day ever with friends, family and your loved one. Most importantly start your marriage off happy.
Do Your Research
Another huge factor when planning your wedding… when booking your suppliers make sure you do your research. Try and get references from people you know, or look at testimonials and reviews online. If you are working with suppliers that you trust they they will create the most beautiful day imaginable. As well as taking a whole load of stress out of the day! Remember, if you get a bad vibe from a supplier, or they don’t get you and your ideas, trust your instinct; it will only cause you added worry that they will not provide what you are looking for.
Remember your role in your wedding is the bride/groom. You are not the caterer, the florist or the stylists. You can not do everything. So it is important that you choose someone that you do trust so you can let them get on with their job. Communicate clearly through emails and keep records of your arrangements, but trust that they will deliver what you are paying for without micromanaging. They are professionals at what they do, so try not to worry about all the minor details.
Everyone will be offering you help from left right and centre. Yes, it may seem annoying, but do take them up on their offers!
This is especially important if you are having a super big D.I.Y wedding. It may seem simple having a few jars to fill with liquor, but remember that this all adds up. Fitting in creating your wedding (arranging appointments, dress fittings and everything else!) with work life, social life, family life and all the other extras, it may just get too much. So, delegate responsibilities and your work load will be cut down a huge amount, and remove stress with it too!
If you are wanting a professional to take care of all your wedding duties, why not hire a wedding planner? They will probably help in many ways, more than you could imagine!
Make Time For Yourself
It is far too easy to get too caught up in the Excel spread sheets, the phone calls, the emails and work. You may even start to loose track of what is actually going on in real life. Make time for you and your partner to spend quality time together. Remember why you are doing all of this and don’t loose track of each other. Why not book a spa break away over a spare weekend? Put wedding planning to the side, switch off your phone, and relax. A spa break could be just what you need. A massage will work wonders for you to relieve tension and to unwind.
Why not try out a new hobby? Yoga, yoga improves energy through practices, proper breathing and movements. Breathing mixed with yoga poses can help direct more oxygen to the body’s vital organs. Therefore, relieving tension, sharpening concentration, and decreasing stress (sounds good to us!)
It is important to eat a balanced diet throughout your planning. We all know too well that when stressed we crave fatty foods, and food jam packed full with sugar. Remember when you have come down from that icing filled high your body will crash and you will feel even more exhausted and stressed. A healthful snack will give you the right kind of lasting energy to power through.
It is also important to eat on your wedding day! We have heard of many stories where the bride is too nervous to eat on their special day, which is not surprising, However not eating on your wedding day is the worst thing you can do to your nerves. Yes, of course It’s natural to be focused on what you are going to look like in your dress, but at this point eating something is not going to mean that you will not fit into the dress. It is important that you have a healthy breakfast once you wake up, with carbs and protein to keep you going until you next eat.
Try Not To Compare
Every wedding is unique and special in their own little ways. No two couples are the same, so try not to compare your wedding too much to others. Take inspiration from blogs, magazines and real weddings, but do remember that they are not you. They are not marrying the person you are marrying. They are not having the same wedding as you. Make sure that your wedding is personal to you two and remember that you can not please everyone, at the end of the day your wedding is about you two and no one else.
One The Day…
It may be a good idea to assign someone to deal with any issues on the day. Either your wedding coordinator, wedding planner or trusty maid or honour and best man. The last thing you want to be spending your day doing is worrying that something hasn’t happened. or of any problems. By assigning someone to this task then it will remove stress from you.
Remember to surround yourself with positive people. If there is anyone who is unnecessarily saying things which are going to dampen your mood then don’t talk to them. If there are certain family members who are likely not to get along then either have a word with them before the day or possibly consider not inviting them if they will bring negative energy to your wedding.
This will give you both the chance to relax, enjoy and take in your wedding. After all it is all about you and you only get married once!