How to choose between your best mates? Grooms: we’re here to help.
You might have been friends since primary school. That one best mate who’s stuck with you through thick and thin, and is now the only one you can think of to ask to be your best man on your wedding day.
However, not every groom falls into this category. Just as a bride often agonises over who to choose as her bridesmaids, picking a best man isn’t always easy for the groom. What if you have a couple of equally-good mates? Or your best mate is terrified of giving a speech? Don’t worry grooms: our Top Tips Tuesday this week is here to help you out.
Have a Few Best Men
Just can’t choose between your mates? You don’t have to. Why not ask a couple of friends to be your best men? Not only does this help to make all of your mates feel included, it also takes a little of the pressure away. Perhaps one’s great at public speaking, but you can’t guarantee he’ll remember the rings? Split the roles up, putting your mind at rest and making all of your best men feel involved.
Don’t get too out of hand with the numbers, though: you can always have a selection of ushers and groomsmen!
Pick a Relative
Keen to stick to the tradition of one best man, but just can’t choose between your mates? Ask a relative instead. Perhaps you’re really close to your brother, or great mates with your cousin? Ask them to take on the honour of being your right-hand man for your big day. This also makes sure that none of your friends feel left out, or wonder why one friend was chosen above the others when you’re all really close.
Look at their Strengths
Is one of your friends just great at giving speeches? Knows how to make a crowd laugh? They’ll be perfect for delivering the best man’s speech. Or maybe one of your closest mates is so well organised that you can be sure that nothing will slip through their fingers? They’d be certain to remember the rings!
Playing to your friends’ strengths is also a great reason to explain to one of your mates, who might be a bit shy, why you didn’t choose them as best man. Chances are, they’ll be relieved not having to give a speech!
Be Honest about their Weaknesses
That close mate who has a habit of drinking past his limits? The one that’d forget which day it was if wasn’t written in front of him? Perhaps these guys aren’t your best choices for best man. Great mates as they are, you might find yourself worrying that they’ll embarrass your family after one too many pints. Or, turn up but forget to bring the rings with them. You’ve got enough to worry about on your big day, so make sure your best man is one you can rely on.
Who did you choose as your best man? A brother, or great speech-giver? Or did you split the tasks between your best mates? Help out other grooms by commenting below, or dropping us a line at our brand new blog address: [email protected].
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