To Have and to Hold? Wedding Traditions
Happy Hump, lovely people! Let’s talk wedding traditions, shall we?
“I love you because you are exactly like everyone else,” is not a marriage proposal to set the heart beating faster. We love each other for our uniqueness, humour and little quirks and, as such, traditional wedding receptions, salmon for starters and three-tier white fruit cakes really just aren’t for everyone. Couples are crying out for new beautiful ideas and inspirational specialists who ‘think outside the box’. Which is why here at The Wedding Affair, we’re to help…
Today, in #weddinghour and for our feature we will be talking about some of the harsh guidelines set by the wedding industry on a whole, and why it is OK not to feel well, OK with these and perhaps why you may want to switch them up a little (or a-lot) depending on situation or personal preference.
The way to go, is go with whatever you are planning. however big or small; lavish or budget friendly – keep it personal, meaningful and from the heart, always.
#1 The dress does not have to be white
You don’t have to go all out — you could still wear a white or ivory dress — but don’t be afraid to add a pop of colour here-and-there, wear floral prints, pair with sparkling shoes or, a piece of statement jewellery. Champagne, blush and pastel-hued dresses, lavender and cornflower blue are on trend right now, adding an understated uniqueness to your ensemble.
Just because white is seen as ‘tradition’ and ‘pure’ doesn’t mean that you have to stick with this colour.
#2 Who said it had to be your Father walking you down the aisle?
Having your dad hold your hand and walk you down the aisle can be a great moment for the two of you, but it’s by no means the only option. If you have a closer relative or friend (like a brother or even your mum), it’s perfectly acceptable to have that person walk with you.
Don’t have anyone in mind? You can even make the trip solo or with your soon-to-be spouse — it’s a great symbol of starting your life together!
#3 You don’t have to have Bridesmaids and/or Groomsmen
If you don’t want to choose between close friends, or just don’t like the idea as a whole to give people the VIP treatment – then certainly don’t feel like you have to. You can still have all of the festivities before the wedding (if you’d like!), but remember, it doesn’t have to be certain people.
Also, if your best friend in the world happens to be a guy, make him your bridesman, or your groom can ask his good friend to be a groomswoman. Again, if that’s what you would like! It’s your wedding after all.
#4 Suppliers – they’re your choice
When selecting and rustling down your favourite wedding specialists, don’t feel as though you have to choose one because that is what is deemed as ‘tradition’. Your wedding is for the two of you, so let your own personality shine through the vendors you choose. Seeking candid photo’s, but your grandma want’s a more formal style? Tell her your wishes and stick by your guns.
Don’t want a traditional fruit cake? You choose whatever flavour/style/cake that makes you happy. The same goes with every supplier. Chair covers not your cuppa’? Ditch them.
Our piece of advice however, is to always do your research! Quality is key for a seamless wedding day.
#5 The meal? Also your choice
Of course, depending on venue this could of course be a little trickier. However, many venues and caterers offer bespoke choices and so you should (in theory) be able to have whatever your heart desires. A vegan menu? Of course this is possible . Something a little different from chicken or beef? Opt for a seasonal selection of fish or your favourite food.
Wedding menu’s certainly don’t have to be bland beef with salmon starters.
#6 What is a veil? Do I have to wear one?
Besides being a bridal icon – the wedding veil has many symbolic interpretations and uses around the world and in different religions. For example, wedding veils were once donned as protection from evil spirits or used to prevent the bride and groom from seeing each other until the deal was sealed in an arranged marriage. Times have changed, but the wedding veil remains a popular part of the bridal ensemble. That said, you do not have to wear one.
#7 Ceremony & Vows
Gone are the days that you had to have a religious ceremony. There are now SO many options; from eloping, to hiring a celebrant, personal ceremonies and rituals – the opportunities are endless.
This also means that your vows don’t have to be ‘run of the mill’ either. You can choose to write your own, take inspiration from somewhere else, or, if your heart desires, stick with tradition. It’s down to the two of you.
We could go on for hours with the list of what is deemed as ‘wedding rules’. Do you have any in particular that stand out to you, or any personal issues that you may have experienced when it came to planning your own wedding? I’d love to know. Drop us a comment below and let us know your thoughts.
Pst, remember to join us for #weddinghour this evening, over on Twitter, 9-10pm.