Top Tips Tuesday: The Wedding Affair’s Guide To Being A Great Groom…
You brought the beautiful ring, popped the all important question, and now you get to kick back until your wedding day rolls around, right? Well, that’s one option, but the best way to keep your partner happy – and, of course you out of the doghouse – is to get involved. Here are The Wedding Affair’s top tips for being a great groom!
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1. Have an Opinion
This is your wedding too, so get in on the planning. Pick a few things that interest you (Food? The entertainment, Casino perhaps? Photos?). You don’t have to be knowledgeable on the difference between lilies and hydrangeas for the bridesmaid bouquets, but give your opinion on the major planning points; it’ll let your fiance know they are not in this alone. And, wouldn’t it be nice to know a little something about your wedding before you attend it?
2. Relish Your Wedding Registry
It may seem like a tedious task, but think about it: You get to wander around a shop, picking things you want that someone most likely will buy you – you can’t beat that! Better yet, it’s now common to shop beyond the kitchen and home wear department. Consider home electronics, power tools, and camping gear (Just a few things we imagine grooms liking?). Can’t justify shelling out for a plasma screen yourself? Throw it on your wedding registry, and a group of friends might buy it for you! Who said wedding planning was boring?
3. Don’t Be a Pushover!
Like we said in point 1, remember this is your day too! If your partner wants to opt for a very girly theme, and you are wanting to protect your man hood, or just aren’t liking all the pretty floral mood boards, then do let your fiancee know! You can always compromise and find some middle ground where you both will love the theme. See if you can meet her halfway. If you have your own ideas then tell her, she will most likely be thankful that you are wanting to do some of the planning and have a say in it yourself.
4. Give Your Fiancee a Break
If she’s doing the majority of the planning for your wedding, she’s probably bordering on wedding overload (we would be too!). You need to make sure she doesn’t have an ulcer (or a grudge!) by the time she walks down the aisle. Give your fiancee a night to relax and cook her dinner, or go to a lovely restaurant. Watch her favourite movie (yes, even a chick flick), and remind her why wedding planning is worth the stress, and most importantly that you are there for her!
5. Choose Your Best Man Wisely & Manage Your Men!
It’s not just about who can organise the best stag do. A good best man needs to be able to help you, advise you and support you both before and during the day. Do you really want your misses upset because your best man is his usual drunk and disorderly self on the day?
You know your friend who loses his car keys at least once a week? Probably better not to make him responsible for bringing your ring to the ceremony! And the one that always drinks too much? Make sure one of your more reliable (or sober) groomsmen keeps him from making an idiot out of himself, or you during speeches. Your guys don’t have to be saints, but they will have important responsibilities, and it’s your job to make sure they know what they are and how they should behave.
6. Get Some Help
Have the spreadsheets and budget list just become too much? We suggest hiring a planner for the day of your wedding, or for help at any point during the process. (Use our Approved Supplier List to find a great wedding planner in your area.) Your consultant will handle all the little details that neither you nor your bride will want to deal with, and it’ll be a relief to have a professional on hand to fix any little mix-ups. Allowing you both to have a well deserved rest and enjoy your wedding day, after all you will only be doing it once! (fingers crossed).
8. Arrange the Attire
Send out detailed emails to all your groomsmen filling them in on the relevant info for the formal wear. Or, arrange a boys day out for you all to get professionally fitted. Let them know when and where to get fitted for their tuxes, if they are not coming with you.
If you are hiring remind them to return the suits the day after the wedding to avoid annoying late fees. Loop your fiance in on the emails to prove that you’ve got everything under control, and prove just how super organised you just are! The more info you can share, the better. Got directions to the men’s wear place? Include them. Don’t assume they’ll know anything about this stuff. Did you before you got engaged?
9. Create A Checklist
Create a checklist of things to remember before the wedding, especially for the morning of the wedding. It is normal for everyone to have mind blanks when they get nervous, that case if you do, you know it is covered! It’s a lot less stressful than trying to remember things, and you can be sure that way you have everything sorted. Delegate responsibilities to your trust worthy grooms men and remember to enjoy your wedding day.
Oh and remember to calculate travelling time and make sure you are early! The bride can be late. You can not! You will normally be told when you need to be at the venue, so make sure you’re there on time.
10. Enjoy Your Wedding Day!
On the day, take some time out with your bride, even for a few minutes. It can be a little, or alot crazy, with every minute planned out and everyone wanting your attention. However, do make sure you find a break so the two of you can just enjoy your own company for a little while. The day will go by so quickly and it may be hard to loose track of what they day is acually about, the true meaning behind getting married. Task the best man and bridesmaids with keeping everyone away
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